Monday, January 28, 2013

Help Them Aim High

I taught Relief Society yesterday.  When I first got the lesson schedule I was so excited to get to discuss President Eyring's talk "Help Them Aim High" for my first lesson.  Jamie had it playing in the car shortly after general conference.  I listened for a while, taken in by all President Eyring was saying, then mentioned to Jamie that I didn't remember it, and was told it was a priesthood talk.  Lucky guys again!  I think I printed it the moment we got home so I could read and think about it, and even used it for my November visiting teaching lesson.

I love teaching.  The study is different knowing that you'll be presenting the information, and I walk into the class knowing that the insight I get from others will expand my learning even more.

The basic gist of the talk is that being individuals with individual missions to fulfill in life, we are blessed with different spiritual gifts to help us in that.  Not only do we need seek to recognize our own gifts, we need to recognize the gifts that others have, especially our children, and help them to "see, want, and believe they can achieve their full potential for service in God's kingdom."

President Eyring talks very specifically about how he did that for each of his children.  Through his other talks you can tell he's a great, caring man, but it was wonderful to see the special love and time he gives to his children and grandchildren.  A great example.

Something that was specifically brought up and clarified during the discussion was that he wasn't helping his children discover these gifts as part of their future occupation, but as ways they can bless others in service.  Seeking after those gifts will certainly strengthen who you are, though, and would bless your life in a variety of other ways, including occupation.  He never once mentions his children's occupations, but does share ways his children used their gifts in service.

Studying this has helped me to think more about how I can help my kids "aim high."  Thank goodness President Eyring says we don't have to carve to do it.  This talk reminded me of something my aunt and uncle did for their family.  Another beautiful way - no carving.  :)

I've been watching my children more, and if nothing else, pointing out to them things that I see.  I've never been given anything concrete like a height board or framed scripture from someone regarding what they see in me, but I've had a few people here and there in my life mention things they see in me, even quickly in casual conversation, that I didn't realize.  It's hard to really see yourself, though, don't you think?  Or even if I think I might have some gift, it's nice to know that someone else recognizes it too.  When I realize someone sees that in me, it's easier to focus on developing that more, which is why it's so important to recognize those things in others, especially our children.

Anyone want to discuss it more?  So many good things in there to talk about.


  1. I'm teaching RS based on this talk tomorrow and appreciate your insight! I was going to have the sisters share some attributes they see in their family members and then share about theirs, maybe I'll break them up in groups to do it since you are right, it is most difficult to see it in ourselves.

    1. I started my lesson with this quote from Gene R. Cook:

      President Spencer W. Kimball was once asked, “What do you do when you find yourself in a boring sacrament meeting?” His response: “I don’t know. I’ve never been in one.” What he was really teaching, brothers and sisters, is about another meeting. If you’re just in this meeting with me—this one we physically see—you’re not in the meeting yet. The real meeting is the meeting between you and the Lord. And if you want to really get in the meeting and have the Lord work upon your heart, that will be up to you.

      "...Every meeting in this church is convened in the name of Jesus Christ. We believe in the personal worship of God in every meeting. Yes, there are things happening up front when I or anyone else is teaching, but again, they’re very secondary in comparison to who the teacher really is, to whose meeting it is, and in whose name the meeting is convened. Is it not logical, then, to understand very quickly that He will teach us? He will, and He can enlighten your understandings and quicken the light within you until you can see and forsee some things that you would not otherwise see and understand.”

      We never actually talked about attributes they see in themselves or family, but after sharing that quote, I suggested that maybe in their "meeting" with the Lord during the lesson they might consider discussing those attributes and ways they could help their children see them. I wanted to ask at the end if anyone had anything they wanted to share from their "meeting," but we ran out of time.

      We did discuss times when someone has pointed out an attribute to us and what effect that had on us.